Tag Archives: fear

For the Right to Be Different

Love and freedom encounter another peculiar barrier, which is cultural conditioning. For the record, I’ve been very clear in stating that I don’t believe that external pressure is as strong as most people do; they speak of society and its impositions as if it were a boogeyman straight out of our childhood. Nevertheless, human groups… Continue lendo »

Compromising to Avoid Friction

What makes so many women and men offer explanations to an angry spouse, when they come home late from work? Wouldn’t it be more natural to expect their partners to understand their exhaustion, and welcome them home even more warmly? Why do people feel compelled to attend that Sunday family lunch if they’d rather go… Continue lendo »

Cruelty

Cruelty is possibly best defined as an action that will deliberately bring harm others. The perpetrator is aware that what they are doing is wrong and that it will cause pain, yet they do it anyway. Aggressive reactions are not necessarily cruel: we all can, at some point, either have or suffer from one, as… Continue lendo »

Fear, Guilt and Shame

I always use a controversial analogy to try to explain the human condition: we’re monkey-like mammals with a sophisticated computer installed in our brains. We don’t really know how to use the computer or how it works. We’ve evolved, but still have a ways to go. Human beings are mammals, with multiple desires. The main… Continue lendo »

Change is Hard

Many people claim they want to change, but don’t really mean it. Some are content with saying, “everyone has flaws, and so do I,” as if that excused them from even trying to improve. Change requires determination and discipline; relinquishing established habits is a difficult process that brings pain and even withdrawal symptoms. But some… Continue lendo »