Only people who live in accordance to their own ideals, and don’t break the moral code they built for their lives can have self-esteem; if honesty is an essential virtue to a person, while they might become rich if they accept a bribe, their self-esteem will plummet. A person can’t have a good opinion, nor… Continue lendo »
– Love implies dependence, being vulnerable. So, loving someone we don’t trust is being reckless with ourselves. Very few couples live well together and have a relationship conducive to emotional and intellectual growth. But exactly because some couples do live happily together, we should do our best to be a part of this exclusive club.
The idea of male superiority prevailed for several centuries; fierce opposition to the concept, which is progressively gaining strength, only appeared on the twentieth century. Men considered themselves to be not only physically stronger, but also smarter, more creative and more sensible, which gave them control over their whole family. They had the power to… Continue lendo »
Here’s one of the most intriguing aspects of the human condition: we are unique, yet we live in a society where inevitably some qualities are more valued than others. Beauty criteria differ on each society or era, but some people will always be considered more beautiful, and they will always be few of them, because… Continue lendo »
I began writing about vanity several years ago, but only now do I feel like I can understand the amount of aggression imbued in this erotic pleasure we all have of showing off to attract admiration or desire. We expend considerable time and energy to attract other people’s attention—even of those who don’t interest us… Continue lendo »
Even these days, many people like to think that love happens by magic, as if lovers had truly been victims of Cupid’s random arrows, but that is not how I see it. Since 1976, I have been trying to understand the components that determine how romantic partners are chosen. It is not an easy task,… Continue lendo »
At a first glance, it must seem that a free man is the one who has sex with as many women as possible, commits to none and is open to sexual experiences at all times. However, I believe this man is actually a slave to the old-fashioned concept of manliness and does not have a… Continue lendo »
I am always surprised when I hear people repeat, with utter conviction, well-known sentences that are regarded as truth, even though not much thought is given to them. These are beliefs, inherited points of view. We have a duty to rethink everything, as new knowledge can create more sophisticated ways of looking at subjects that… Continue lendo »
Many people claim they want to change, but don’t really mean it. Some are content with saying, “everyone has flaws, and so do I,” as if that excused them from even trying to improve. Change requires determination and discipline; relinquishing established habits is a difficult process that brings pain and even withdrawal symptoms. But some… Continue lendo »
We need to take a look at how vanity interferes with the way we evaluate people and their importance. In our current cultural environment, people who stand out are considered important. Attracting attention, as we know, brings a much-wanted form of erotic pleasure, and many people find it a source of great bliss, although it… Continue lendo »
One of the most common feelings after a breakup is of curiosity about the other’s fate. Even the one who actually initiated the breakup will do all they can to know how their ex-partner is faring. Seldom does this interest come from genuine empathy, though. More often than not, it comes from an ambivalence that… Continue lendo »